Choosing Your Reflection

Through weekly conversations with former brides and grooms, we unravel the significance of the perfect wedding day outfit and the stories of the relationships behind them.

About the show

Welcome to Choosing Your Reflection, a series of discussions about the allure and mystery of what to wear on your special day. Through conversations with our diverse group of former brides and grooms, we aim to unravel the unique significance of the perfect wedding day outfit and its meaning to our subjects’ pasts, presents, and futures.


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    What You Wear Matters - Brandi Sea Heft-Kniffin

    April 7th, 2021  |  48 mins 52 secs

    This week on Choosing Your Reflection we talk with graphic designer and fellow podcaster, host of Design Speaks, Brandi Sea. Brandi shares how selective presentation and creativity fuel her everyday fashion choices and the outfits that defined her three wedding events. With a refreshing take on what it means to search for that special outfit and the relationships of artist and storyteller, Brandi talks about how looking “timeless” may be less important than viewing a dress as a time capsule in the evolution of one’s self expression.

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    Top Hats & Converse Shoes - Taylor Stilwell

    March 31st, 2021  |  34 mins 50 secs

    Welcome back to Choosing Your Reflection with this week’s guest and author Taylor Stillwell. Taylor walks us through her two trips down the aisle and her life’s journey in between, during which she formed her new nuclear family. For her second and surprise wedding, Taylor tells how she managed to convince her wife to help plan their outfits without her even knowing it!

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    Romance in Lace - Carole Foster

    March 24th, 2021  |  17 mins 9 secs

    Welcome back to Choosing Your Reflection! This week we take a trip back to a time when cinched waists, poodle skirts, and cardigans were in vogue. Our host’s grandmother Carole shares the story of her whirlwind romance with her late husband Richard. Just as she recognized perfection in her future spouse, when she saw her dress in a magazine she knew it was meant to be hers. Join us as we hear her tell her tale of romance with the love of her life!

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    A Regal Riegel Wedding - Liz Riegel

    March 17th, 2021  |  22 mins 46 secs

    Welcome back to another new episode of Choosing Your Reflection with this week’s guest Liz Riegel. With strong preferences for a traditional aesthetic, Liz recounts how she was able to focus earlier in life on her career, and how there was little internal fuss about her “proper” wedding style. Through our conversation, Liz reflects back on how her first trip to the bridal shop helped her realize how her life was transitioning into its next stage. A fun conversation with a traditional yet "chill" bride who fashioned a dress fit for a monarch!

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    Finding Balance through the Power of Story - Michael Kass

    March 10th, 2021  |  37 mins 48 secs

    This week on Choosing Your Reflection we have storyteller, coach, and author of the book Story Maps, Michael Kass. He recounts how weddings are one of few ancient rituals left in modern society and shares how couples can practice the "simple" acts of listening and breathing to make the process less stressful. Michael also discusses the importance of aligning your personal stories to find better balance, not only on your wedding day, but every day!

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    The Curvy Bride - Michelle Files

    March 3rd, 2021  |  20 mins 26 secs

    Welcome to another week with us on Choosing Your Reflection, where we interview Michelle Files, owner of The Curvy Bride bridal boutique. Michelle shares how hurdles in her own journey to find her wedding dress helped fuel her entrepreneurial drive in opening New Jersey’s first plus-size bridal shop. Emphasizing the comfort and inclusion that she didn’t feel in her own search, Michelle takes us through the doors and into the fitting rooms of the customized bridal experience she offers in her shop.

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    Who's Going To Do The Dishes? - Crystal Lutz Welsh

    February 24th, 2021  |  31 mins 41 secs

    Welcome back to another episode of Choosing Your Reflection, where we share a discussion with Pennsylvania native Crystal. In a gentle tale of two cities, Crystal describes how she met her husband Bill just after moving from one end of the state to the other. Pragmatic with a dry wit, Crystal shares how a pastor's simple question of “Who’s gonna do the dishes?” sheds light on how to successfully navigate the journey of marriage.

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    Trust Your Inner Voice - Dr. Lindsey Elmore

    February 17th, 2021  |  42 mins 45 secs

    This week on Choosing Your Reflection we are excited to have Dr. Lindsey Elmore, advocate and pioneer in female health and wellness. By sharing stories in which she was challenged to “trust her inner voice” Dr. Elmore recounts her own personal experiences with the wedding process and how she uses them to help others achieve a better understanding internally. Emphasizing growth through change, Lindsey shows ways in which tough decisions can be the best ones through the potential and possibility of the yet unexplored.

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    Eagles, Parrots, Doves & Owls - Merrick Rosenberg

    February 10th, 2021  |  37 mins 16 secs

    Welcome back to Choosing Your Reflection where this week’s guest explains personality types with a unique emphasis on the aviary. Public speaker and behavioral expert Merrick Rosenberg breaks down how most people tend to have a dominant personality style in addition to a combination of four bird archetypes. While teaching us the distinct attributes of each bird type, Merrick details how birds of a feather rarely flock together, as evidenced by his parrot personality finding love with his owl opposite!

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    Traveling the World Together - Monica Irauzqui

    February 2nd, 2021  |  32 mins 28 secs

    On this special episode of Choosing Your Reflection, we’re asking our audience to imagine what their perfect honeymoon or special celebration excursion would be. Helping us craft our visions and make them a reality is this week’s guest Monica Irauzqui, vice-president of YAMPU Tours. From New York, to Peru, and then Sicily in one year (and married not long after), Monica recounts the wanderlust she shares with her husband and how her experience of the world helps tailor unique experiences for newlyweds, almost weds, and everyone outside and in between!

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    Reflecting our Values - Allison Tomlinson

    January 27th, 2021  |  25 mins 29 secs

    This week on Choosing Your Reflection we meet Allison Tomlinson who, with the communal help of her family and friends, created a greenery-soaked wedding. From flower crowns and overflowing bouquets to secret photos in hidden nooks of nature, Allison recounts how she had an iconic day that truly reflected the positive fruits of enclothed cognition and the values she and her husband Matt hold dear.

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    The Leader in your Life - Gwenno Dafydd

    January 20th, 2021  |  32 mins 59 secs

    This week we have actress, author, musician, and coach Gwenno Dafydd. Taking equal parts inspiration from the venue she needed to be wed at, her love of the sea, and her ever-playful personality, Gwenno was able to craft a siren’s outfit that was truly one of a kind for her wedding. In addition to her already extensive resume, Gwenno prides herself on being a unique leadership coach to brides, grooms and a whole range of parties for the big day!

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    Warriors of Love - HannaH's Field

    January 13th, 2021  |  27 mins 44 secs

    Join us this week as we sit down with musical performers HannaH and Chef Bliss, a.k.a. the duo HannaH's Field. HannaH reveals how she wrote Bliss a surprise song, Warriors of Love, and sang it to him as part of their wedding vows, while in the idyllic setting of Peoples State Forest. Stay tuned for the end of the episode where HannaH sings Warriors of Love in the duo's quintessential "Modern Hippie Rasta Folk" style!

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    Multiplying Happiness - MD Ansar Ali

    January 6th, 2021  |  33 mins 24 secs

    Welcome to an especially educational and inspirational episode of Choosing Your Reflection. This week we chat with relationship specialist MD Ansar Ali. An individual with traditional religious roots and a progressive, inclusive mind, Ansar was tasked with the delicate challenge of marrying someone outside of his family’s Muslim faith. Through a combination of honoring his family’s customs, honoring the love for his wife, and trusting that the people most important to him would help make concessions for his happiness, Ansar shares with us the same tenets and beliefs in love he imbues all of his clients.

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    10 Days and Counting - Stephen & Lee Preston

    December 30th, 2020  |  34 mins 59 secs

    Welcome to this week’s discussion with fellow podcasters Stephen and Lee Preston on Choosing Your Reflection. A second marriage for both of them, the happy couple decided time was of the essence and tied the knot just 10 days after they met online! While they acknowledge their courtship was extremely unorthodox and wouldn’t suggest it to others, the pair have turned their whirlwind romance into 8 blissful years of marriage and a successful podcast, 10 Days and Counting!

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    Free Flowing - Sarah Kermode

    December 23rd, 2020  |  30 mins 16 secs

    Today on Choosing Your Reflection we talk to Sarah, a new mom and cohost of Hiking Thru Life with her partner on the airwaves and in life, Andy. Sharing a love for a comfortable vibe and the great outdoors, Sarah and her partner tailored their wedding as a love letter to nature. Though she had a few simple aims for her own dress, Sarah walks us through why she told her bridesmaids “no rules”.